In which I admit how needy I am

[vanillafluffy]

I've spent a lot of time with J over the last few days. Thursday, we had a dog, first in quite a while. Actually, four dogs belonging to a family, and as we surmised, the dog they called us is NOT the one instigating the trouble---and the one who's instigating is being set off by the owner. Fun-fun, IF the owner will let us help. She's somewhat resistant.

Friday afternoon, J and I went out after running around...she was overheated, and proposed a cold beverage. Then we ordered appetizers---quesadillas---sat and talked for a couple hours, and ended up ordering dinner (Au jus sandwiches, very nommy).

She wanted to know what's wrong with me; I've not been up to par for a while---y'all may have noticed---and I dumped. The lack of a job, finances, house going to seed again, persistant depression---all that shit and more.

Have I mentioned that, in addition to dog psychology (in which she is self-taught), J is also degreed in people psychology? She's a good couselor as well as a good friend, and she's proposed a plan whereby I will show up at her place every weekday morning at 10AM, just as if it was a real job, and from there, I'll do all my job search stuff, and she will also advise me on my finances.

Being at the end of my rope, I agreed to it. I've got to do something. Otherwise, I'm going to self-destruct. You guys are great, but I need a real-time cheerleader/whip-cracker. I need structure. And at this time of year, I need air-conditioning!

Saturday afternoon, though, I went over to her place for purely entertainment purposes: DVD night. So far, we've screened episodes of Trauma (Cliff Curtis, yummy!), Justified (Olyphant and Goggins, ditto) and in addition, this evening I screened Live Free, Die Hard, which she hadn't seen. It was a hoot---it took her about four seconds to recognize Cliff Curtis (FBI Deputy Director Bowman) but about ten minutes to ID Timothy Olyphant (Thomas Gabriel). I teased her that she didn't know him without the cowboy hat, but she insisted it was because he looks much younger in LFDH.

Church in the morning and cleaning committee afterward...very glad it's not a potluck Sunday---we had, like, three in a row, and I was running low on cheap, bomb-proof recipes.
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Comments

[smtfhw.livejournal.com]

Sometimes just telling someone is more help than any actual help they can give. I'm glad you have a plan, and a friend to help you through this. I wish I could do something, but I'm too far away...

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

She and I discussed that old proverb, "If you give a man a fish, he eats for a day. If you teach him to fish, he will eat for a lifetime." So, she's going to teach me to "fish"---but I'm still the one who has to do all the dirty work.

I appreciate your intentions; if you were closer, we could get together and talk food and cars....
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[thru-the-blinds.livejournal.com]

I agree with everything smtfhw said (more succinctly than I could). Wish I could do something, but good for you - taking the first step. And that's usually the hardest one. *speaks from experience*

Though employed, I'm in a similar rut (as you know). So I feel ya.

*hugs*

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

At the moment, the hardest part is going to be the getting up and going...at the moment, I'm operating on about three hours sleep---I'm actually in pain!---because lately I'm not asleep til around 5AM. Resetting that is gonna be a woolly booger.

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[thru-the-blinds.livejournal.com]

*nods*

It's VERY difficult (though not impossible, thankfully) to get yourself back on track once your day/night schedule has been screwed with.

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

I've always been a bit of a night owl, and three years on second shift fed into that. I've had brief periods of synchronization when I was up bright and early, but always lapsed back into nocturnality. And it's worse during the summer, since it'smarginally cooler at night....

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[thru-the-blinds.livejournal.com]

*raises hand*

Life-long nightowl here, as well. I was forced to be a day person when I had kids. Otherwise, I'd be up all night and sleep all day (I wish)!

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

Birds of a feather---!


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[cbtreks.livejournal.com]

That sounds like a good idea - someplace to be every day. I'm glad she's there to lend an ear (and an air conditioned place to job hunt from).

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

That's the downside of living alone---no accountability. So having to physically check in evrey day is going to be a big thing. It's just...getting through the first couple weeks is gonna be hell.

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[karaokegal.livejournal.com]

Nothing wrong with getting a good coach. (Hopefully not too much of Bobby Knight type.)

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

Most sports metaphors are wasted on me, I'm afraid. My first thought when I read this one was, "Wasn't he the youngest boy on The Brady Bunch?!".

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[karaokegal.livejournal.com]

Presumably this is not what you're looking for.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvRO2GE4x4M

[kukkurkurat.livejournal.com]

I am glad you have a friend like that. One of my problems is that I am the friend everybody seems to lean on and they do ask how I am but somehow they do not BELIEVE that I could have problems... Meh about that. I am very happy that you have a plan now. Plus was J not the one who at some point in the past mentioned you the possibility of being on eBay and selling some of your numerous keepsakes? If she was, there IS a possibility of a financial gain. Plus the air-conditioning.

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

I wish your friends were not such flakes. I consider myself somewhat lucky in that respect. (Although I watch some of the reality wedding shows, and I'm always agape at these gals who have a dozen bridesmaids strutting down the aisle with them. Good doG, if I had that many attendants, there'd be no one left to sit in the pews.) Mind you, J's take is that I need to stand on my own two feet and not rely on help from anyone else. Yeah, that's gonna be a treat.

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[kukkurkurat.livejournal.com]

WurstkittyMistress is not that flaky but she also lives in the higher income bracket and thus is less likely to lean on me. But yeah. And I do not have that many close friends to begin with.
I might indulge in a treat of a shower this week, maybe.

[vanillafluffy.livejournal.com]

I hope you get your shower.

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[kukkurkurat.livejournal.com]

Me too. I feel fungi getting ready to pop on me!